In a legal
studies class once, our professor asked us, “Why do you think lawyers have walls
of books and volumes in their offices?” It’s not just to look smart, he
explained with a laugh. He explained that all those books are full of cases and
serve the lawyer as events of precedence. In order to prove his case or down
the opposition, legal counsel will reference previous cases. At one point,
those cases were new but now they’ve become the standard.
History is:
- Our own experience
- Others’ experiences
- What have become the new guidelines and reference points
- Anything that’s happened before and influences after
The
expectation that history gives us is called precedence.
As I’ve thought on this topic, common sayings
come perfectly to mind, illustrating the power and influence of history on the
future:
Once bitten,
twice shy. When our hearts are broken, it’s a natural defense to quickly escort
it to security and lock it up so that no one else can get to it and hurt it.
With heartbreak, it’s like a brand new book of guidelines have been dropped
into our lap: of how guys act, the signs to watch out for that invisibly lined
our way to this dark destination, what their sneaker tracks look like to get
there and new warnings of delayed attachment, the installation of suspicion,
and the distrust of affection intended to bring two people closer instead of being
grossly manipulated to shove them apart. The two parts that compose this
home-bound heart are 1) not looking for anyone new and 2) not letting anyone make
any progress in their distance to our heart.
Do it once,
shame on you; do it twice, shame on me. Ahh, an old adage that basically warns
us to learn our lesson the first time. We get a free pass the first time, such
as a best friend betraying our secrets, our romance, or our friendship. But,
the second time we do it, let it happen, or it happens to us after letting that
person back in, how do we then explain? A record has already been created; we “should
have known.” It’s so much more difficult to get sympathy or get people to
listen when we’ve been stripped of ignorance. That’s a strong expectation to
fight against—not only is it getting someone to change (such as becoming
faithful, quit doing “this,” or start doing “that”) but the rest of the battle
comes in convincing everyone else of this metamorphosis.
Hindsight is
20/20. I see the validity in this one, and yet there are just certain
situations where it seems we’re still searching for the right prescription to
view it in and one to figure out what went wrong, such as preventing the next
genocide. When we go to examine how love died, years can go by and the view is
still murky and there is no crispy clarity. Yet, with time, acceptance can
prompt us to admit the truth and new experiences can enlighten archives as new
lessons and examples are applied to old ones or the two are compared and
contrasted. Our expectations from history can be changed when the future disproves
and revises them.
History
encompasses experience and learning, things people hold even after they put the
book away, turn the TV off, or cut the conversation. For this, history arguably
creates the greatest—and most difficult to defy—expectations.
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